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Let’s Talk Baby…

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Since I was young, I was that kid that had her whole life planned out. I acted it out with my Barbie’s & Polly Pocket’s and everything. I wanted to get married, have kids… the whole nine yards. So next month, I will be married for 2 years and I am only 26. Yes, I say only because I feel that when some older folks hear that dreadfully old number, they start yelling at me the way Marisa Tomei yells at Joe Pesci in the 1992 movie My Cousin Vinny… “YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING”!

Let me be honest, a couple of months after the wedding, when all the attention from the big day had warn off and you’re running out of people who ask you “so, how’s married life?”, I felt this void from coming down off all the adrenaline and I felt like the most logical thing to do next is have babies, and I started really pressuring my husband to maybe start and I’m glad we didn’t. We went through some important and necessary steps in our marriage that I wouldn’t know how I would have handled having a newborn.

Let’s make one thing clear…. My husband and I’s decision to start a family is no one’s business besides my husband and I’s and whoever WE decide to tell. It boggles my mind that being married and 26 gives anyone who decides to come out of the wood work this automatic right to pry into my life and ask me essentially if my husband and I are having sex with the intention to procreate. When you’re younger or single, the talk of sex is taboo, but all of a sudden, you say I do and people want to be all up in your sexual business.

As my cousin would say: “BABIES HAVING BABIES”… Let’s not forget, I met my now husband a mere 4 1/2 years ago, drunk at a bar, dancing on a speaker. We have certain milestones that we have to hit to feel ready to have kids. We have to feel mentally ready to bring up a child together and make sure our relationship is it’s strongest and still maintain an importance on our life as a couple as well as parent’s and in turn, that can translate that to our children (yes… god-willing, more than one) so they know how much they’re parents love them which sets an example for their future.

So, when we decide to start trying to get pregnant… everyone who is anyone will know, I mean it will be a little difficult to hide at some point. I know it mostly comes from a good place, people being excited for that next chapter in our lives, but until then, PLEASE stop touching my stomach with some voodoo intention of getting an answer, stop monitoring my alcohol consumption (I mean, it’s gotten to the point where I drink even when I don’t necessarily want to so people dont think I’m trying to keep something a secret) and just stop flat out asking, when I’m showing, trust me… you will know unless we choose too otherwise!💋

xoxo,

beingbrittney.

(I know a lot of you newlyweds can relate so leave a comment or share it to friends that can relate. I’m looking forward to hearing your crazy “baby” stories)🍼

Before I Die, I want to…

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beach 1So the idea of having bucket-lists has always bothered me. A bucket-list is like this imaginary archive that you make-up in your head with all this stuff that you want to do before you… well…die. Until recently, I understood that the idea of a bucket-list is not necessarily measured by what you do, but how many of those boxes you got to check off by the time you, well…croak. So, I thought why not write down some of my top bucket list items so (who knows) I could refer back to this when I’m 91 years old and see how well I did, so here goes:

1. Spontaneously pack a bag, head to the airport and jump on the next plane out and see where I go. ✈️

I have quite the type A personality, and letting go is something that is just not easy for me. There is something so amazing and liberating to me in the art of letting go and I am just so curious to see where that journey would lead me. Also, not knowing if what I’m packing is weather appropriate at all and sticking to one luggage terrifies me but would be so exciting, like that scared/eager feeling you get when your about to be tattooed.

2. Get to attend the Barrett Jackson car auction 🚘

Ok, ideally I would like to have won the lottery first and be able to surprise my dad with a father daughter trip to the auction and buy him his dream car (which at this point I believe is a ’65 Mustang Eleanor) and I would get to buy my dream car (which would either be a black ’67 Chevelle SS or a teal ’68 Ford pickup truck… or both😉) but let’s stay realistic. To say I have an obsession with classic cars would be an understatement and Barrett Jackson is to me what an Oscar is to Emma Stone.

3. Pretend like I’m a celebrity and live large in Vegas 💰

Just my husband and I, perhaps for an Anniversary trip. We would stay in the best hotel, eat in all the fanciest restaurants, get bottle service at the the hottest clubs, gamble at the high-rollers table, buy my first Louis Vuitton bag right off the strip, go to Crazy Horse, renew our vows by Elvis at the Little White Wedding Chapel and dress to the nines and get photos taken by a stunning photographer at all the Vegas landmarks.

4. Free swimming with sharks (with a guide, not by myself – I’m ballsy, not stupid) 🦈

Anyone who knows me, knows I’m obsessed with sharks. Ever since having watched Sharkwater in college (#riprobstewart), I have been fascinated with sharks and even though they intimidate the sh** out of me, I believe if it helps me get rid of my fear and end the stigma, that’s one step closer in saving sharks from extinction who are so important to our oceans.

5. Get to design/create something that people can shop 👩🏽‍🎨

I would love to make something… anything that would then get put on shelves (or online) to share with other people. Either some article of clothing or even a line, stationary or agendas or even any type of beauty product would be a dream!

**6. Sign up for a board game competition (and win) 🎲

Ok this one is a little bonus, (noticing a theme here?). In my family, trivia games and board games are played on the regular, and when I say regular I mean at least once a week and it’s kind of become the “thing” that we do with extended family when we all get together too. But I’m good, I’m reallllly good at trivia, I consider it a gift of mine actually, so being able to enter in some sort of competition and winning would be just the coolest thing ever!

So I’ll see how much of these I get to check off my list and I’ll check back in with you guys in 65 years… so stay tuned 😉

xoxo,

beingbrittney.

The Realities of “March Break” as a Working Adult

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Oh March Break… feels like decades ago when you’d be in school with that butterfly feeling in your stomach, anxious for that Friday bell to ring. It’s the closest thing to summer break and it’s THE introduction to spring and well, that’s just cause for celebration.

Being an adult, and a recent homeowner, the reality of spring break is a whole lot different now. Vacations turn to stay-cations and I think they don’t get enough credit! Staycations mean sleeping in, breakfast dates as much as lunch and dinner dates, or even staying in bed all day bingeing on Netflix and best of all, finding hidden treasures in your own city to discover with your significant other. We’ve also gone to picnic near our city’s waterfall, gone to plenty of food and drink festivals, wine tasting, a stroll through the old port, a drive around town and even spent full days in pjs.

I like to spend the weekend prior to my “march break” reading local blogs where I can get some inspiration to find some cool little Instagram-worthy coffee shops, or under the radar activities such as re-discovering museums as adults that we remember going on field-trips to in elementary school. Cooking extravagant meals for two combined with ordering pizza and beer and mixing it up with a romantic night of fondue and a bottle of wine is all part of the charm of a staycation.

Having all these activities means I also get to mix things up with my hair and makeup as well, but unless I’m going out for dinner. I like to keep everything from my outfit to my makeup pretty casual on a daily basis. My uniform is dark denim and a white top, very simple makeup with a light layer of foundation, bronzer and blush with some mascara and I’m pretty much ready for any adventure that that particular day might take me on my grown-up version of march break.

xoxo,

beingbrittney.