The Reality of Going Out: Then vs. Now

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Back in the day, going out was planned and it was usually to some club. You knew by Tuesday you were going to take a cab, exactly where you were going, and leaving before last call was not really an option. It didn’t matter if you started work at 8 am the next morning and the fact that (I speak as a woman obviously) needed 3 hours to get ready, to be freshly showered, hair all done up, outfit thoroughly thought out and makeup meticulously done. It was all part of the fun of going out and the excuse “I don’t feel like going” was never an option.

Nowadays, “Clubbing” is at the bottom of the “what to do on a Saturday night” list to be frank. The thought of spending more than even 30 minutes getting ready is exhausting. I will settle for anywhere with a good drinks and honestly… the accessibility to food is necessary. Ideally, you just want anywhere there’s good music, a place for everyone to sit that you can have good conversation and lighting where you can actually see one another without a flash. As an adult, sometimes the best options are at someone’s house with a bottle of wine, some type of dip and tv radio playing in the background while you play board/card games (and it’s usually the cheapest option as well… win-win!)

I went out to a club for a friend’s birthday last weekend, and honestly at first, my husband and I had no idea what to do with ourselves. We have become so used to not going out that we didn’t even know how to act, which is bizarre considering how we met (if you don’t know that story, refer yourself to my post: Kids, this is the story of How I Met Your Father).  After a couple of drinks, and some tunes that took us back, we felt as though we never got out of the swing of things; dancing, laughing and drinking with friends wasn’t so daunting after all (minus all the sweaty people bumping into you trying to get by all the time). Honestly, it was so nice to leave our little nest and act like the kids we were when we first met.

So, in conclusion, to clubbing/going out now I say: Thank you for reminding me how to let loose from time to time… see you again in a couple months.

xoxo,

beingbrittney.

I Have No “Friends”…

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This about to be a somewhat emotional post… so here goes (you’ve been forewarned):

Alright, let`s talk friendship, a concept that I`m not sure I have a hard time grasping, or a term that is used too loosely in society these days.

Oftentimes, when the topic of friendship comes up, I’m not shy to admit that I don’t have really any friends. Now I’m sure some of my friends who are reading this will feel a bit insulted but let me explain…

Throughout most of my life I had a best friend. Much like a conventional best-friendship, we did everything together, told each other everything, our families hung out, we knew pretty much everything about one another. In my book, that’s friendship. Unfortunately, we grew apart (I think). I still can’t pinpoint what actually happened to our friendship but what I can tell you is that I’ll be the first one to admit that I am a selfish friend. Looking back now, I don’t think I can really be friends with multiple people because subconsciously I think everyone has a sense of favouritism and there’s always that one friend that you trust more, want to hang out with the most, and the one that just truly gets you, so you’ll always gravitate most to him/her.

Now the reason I say I don’t have “friends” is that I no longer have that relationship with anyone else anymore other than my husband, and family (which is a whole other ballpark because I mean they’re blood, so there is some type of automatic friendship and a level of genuine caring that comes from being related). If I would consider family as friends… then in that case I’m extremely fortunate and abundant (S/O to my seester👯, who knows me better then I know myself). But if not, all my friends I’ve acquired through my husband, and for that I feel really lucky and well surrounded but I mean… if it weren’t for him, these wouldn’t have these friends, you know?

I do have someone in my life who’s friendship I will forever cherish, and even though we don’t talk often enough, the importance she shows to our friendship and vice versa radiates no matter how long we’ve gone without talking and where we are in our respectives lives, we always make it a point to check-in from time to time (love you Jo!❤️). To want to keep her all to myself would be a shame because her friendship is truly one-in-a-million and everyone in her surroundings deserves her as their friend.

I feel so blessed and really grateful that I got to marry my best friend, but sometimes you want some girl time with someone who isn’t biased because they’re family. I always envied the kind of friendship that my god-daughter has with her BFF (granted she’s only 16) because they’re only 2 in their circle, and there’s a sense of comfort and security that no one will get in the way of that kind of unbreakable bond. Think Sex & the City but if it were just Carrie & Samantha, that’s the kind of childish yet mature relationship that I’ve always wanted to share with my best friend.

I know… I’m quite confusing! I always thought of myself as this social butterfly that likes to be surrounded by a bunch of people at all times, but in growing up, I’ve learnt that I’m actually quite the opposite. I believe I’m what the new social media trends likes to call: an extroverted introvert. I like to keep to small groups of loyal people the odd times when I’m not in comfy clothes having pizza and beer watching movies on a weekend night with my husband. I live for long meaningful conversations, over coffee or wine while playing cards or a board game, or even watching the Bachelor (haha…oops😉).

I guess all I’m really trying to say is that; I really miss having a best friend.

xoxo,

beingbrittney.

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Spring Shoe Lookbook ’17

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Alright, so we’ve FINALLY made it to SPRING!!!! Which may be hard to believe if you live in Montreal like me, but believe it or not, a nice crisp layer of snow, warmer weather that allows you to wear a lighter coat and being able to feel the sunbeams is our way of noticing that Spring has officially sprung here in the 514.

I felt inspired to put together some shoes that I think are going to be super on trend this season. Here’s a link to my video for all of you who are more visual:

Spring Shoe Lookbook ’17

Here’s a list of links to the styles (or similar styles) of shoes I think will be staples for your spring wardrobe:

*Have I mentioned I LOVEEEE a good budget find😏

xoxo,

beingbrittney.