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The Reality of Going Out: Then vs. Now

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Back in the day, going out was planned and it was usually to some club. You knew by Tuesday you were going to take a cab, exactly where you were going, and leaving before last call was not really an option. It didn’t matter if you started work at 8 am the next morning and the fact that (I speak as a woman obviously) needed 3 hours to get ready, to be freshly showered, hair all done up, outfit thoroughly thought out and makeup meticulously done. It was all part of the fun of going out and the excuse “I don’t feel like going” was never an option.

Nowadays, “Clubbing” is at the bottom of the “what to do on a Saturday night” list to be frank. The thought of spending more than even 30 minutes getting ready is exhausting. I will settle for anywhere with a good drinks and honestly… the accessibility to food is necessary. Ideally, you just want anywhere there’s good music, a place for everyone to sit that you can have good conversation and lighting where you can actually see one another without a flash. As an adult, sometimes the best options are at someone’s house with a bottle of wine, some type of dip and tv radio playing in the background while you play board/card games (and it’s usually the cheapest option as well… win-win!)

I went out to a club for a friend’s birthday last weekend, and honestly at first, my husband and I had no idea what to do with ourselves. We have become so used to not going out that we didn’t even know how to act, which is bizarre considering how we met (if you don’t know that story, refer yourself to my post: Kids, this is the story of How I Met Your Father).  After a couple of drinks, and some tunes that took us back, we felt as though we never got out of the swing of things; dancing, laughing and drinking with friends wasn’t so daunting after all (minus all the sweaty people bumping into you trying to get by all the time). Honestly, it was so nice to leave our little nest and act like the kids we were when we first met.

So, in conclusion, to clubbing/going out now I say: Thank you for reminding me how to let loose from time to time… see you again in a couple months.

xoxo,

beingbrittney.

Let’s Talk Baby…

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Since I was young, I was that kid that had her whole life planned out. I acted it out with my Barbie’s & Polly Pocket’s and everything. I wanted to get married, have kids… the whole nine yards. So next month, I will be married for 2 years and I am only 26. Yes, I say only because I feel that when some older folks hear that dreadfully old number, they start yelling at me the way Marisa Tomei yells at Joe Pesci in the 1992 movie My Cousin Vinny… “YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING”!

Let me be honest, a couple of months after the wedding, when all the attention from the big day had warn off and you’re running out of people who ask you “so, how’s married life?”, I felt this void from coming down off all the adrenaline and I felt like the most logical thing to do next is have babies, and I started really pressuring my husband to maybe start and I’m glad we didn’t. We went through some important and necessary steps in our marriage that I wouldn’t know how I would have handled having a newborn.

Let’s make one thing clear…. My husband and I’s decision to start a family is no one’s business besides my husband and I’s and whoever WE decide to tell. It boggles my mind that being married and 26 gives anyone who decides to come out of the wood work this automatic right to pry into my life and ask me essentially if my husband and I are having sex with the intention to procreate. When you’re younger or single, the talk of sex is taboo, but all of a sudden, you say I do and people want to be all up in your sexual business.

As my cousin would say: “BABIES HAVING BABIES”… Let’s not forget, I met my now husband a mere 4 1/2 years ago, drunk at a bar, dancing on a speaker. We have certain milestones that we have to hit to feel ready to have kids. We have to feel mentally ready to bring up a child together and make sure our relationship is it’s strongest and still maintain an importance on our life as a couple as well as parent’s and in turn, that can translate that to our children (yes… god-willing, more than one) so they know how much they’re parents love them which sets an example for their future.

So, when we decide to start trying to get pregnant… everyone who is anyone will know, I mean it will be a little difficult to hide at some point. I know it mostly comes from a good place, people being excited for that next chapter in our lives, but until then, PLEASE stop touching my stomach with some voodoo intention of getting an answer, stop monitoring my alcohol consumption (I mean, it’s gotten to the point where I drink even when I don’t necessarily want to so people dont think I’m trying to keep something a secret) and just stop flat out asking, when I’m showing, trust me… you will know unless we choose too otherwise!💋

xoxo,

beingbrittney.

(I know a lot of you newlyweds can relate so leave a comment or share it to friends that can relate. I’m looking forward to hearing your crazy “baby” stories)🍼