Since I was young, I was that kid that had her whole life planned out. I acted it out with my Barbie’s & Polly Pocket’s and everything. I wanted to get married, have kids… the whole nine yards. So next month, I will be married for 2 years and I am only 26. Yes, I say only because I feel that when some older folks hear that dreadfully old number, they start yelling at me the way Marisa Tomei yells at Joe Pesci in the 1992 movie My Cousin Vinny… “YOUR BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING”!
Let me be honest, a couple of months after the wedding, when all the attention from the big day had warn off and you’re running out of people who ask you “so, how’s married life?”, I felt this void from coming down off all the adrenaline and I felt like the most logical thing to do next is have babies, and I started really pressuring my husband to maybe start and I’m glad we didn’t. We went through some important and necessary steps in our marriage that I wouldn’t know how I would have handled having a newborn.
Let’s make one thing clear…. My husband and I’s decision to start a family is no one’s business besides my husband and I’s and whoever WE decide to tell. It boggles my mind that being married and 26 gives anyone who decides to come out of the wood work this automatic right to pry into my life and ask me essentially if my husband and I are having sex with the intention to procreate. When you’re younger or single, the talk of sex is taboo, but all of a sudden, you say I do and people want to be all up in your sexual business.
As my cousin would say: “BABIES HAVING BABIES”… Let’s not forget, I met my now husband a mere 4 1/2 years ago, drunk at a bar, dancing on a speaker. We have certain milestones that we have to hit to feel ready to have kids. We have to feel mentally ready to bring up a child together and make sure our relationship is it’s strongest and still maintain an importance on our life as a couple as well as parent’s and in turn, that can translate that to our children (yes… god-willing, more than one) so they know how much they’re parents love them which sets an example for their future.
So, when we decide to start trying to get pregnant… everyone who is anyone will know, I mean it will be a little difficult to hide at some point. I know it mostly comes from a good place, people being excited for that next chapter in our lives, but until then, PLEASE stop touching my stomach with some voodoo intention of getting an answer, stop monitoring my alcohol consumption (I mean, it’s gotten to the point where I drink even when I don’t necessarily want to so people dont think I’m trying to keep something a secret) and just stop flat out asking, when I’m showing, trust me… you will know unless we choose too otherwise!💋
xoxo,
beingbrittney.
(I know a lot of you newlyweds can relate so leave a comment or share it to friends that can relate. I’m looking forward to hearing your crazy “baby” stories)🍼
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